Have you ever looked back at your life and thought, "How did I get here? How did I become this version of myself?" I’ve asked myself that question many times on my growth journey. But I’ve realized that finding peace and trusting the process is just that—a process. It’s not a one-time event or a sudden epiphany. Growth takes time, reflection, and, most importantly, faith.
For the longest time, I thought growth came with closure. I thought I needed to wrap every hurt and wrong into a neat little bow of understanding. I thought I needed people to apologize, admit their wrongs, and explain their actions for me to move on. But life, as I’ve come to learn, doesn’t always offer closure. And you know what? That’s okay.
What I’ve found instead is something far more profound than closure. I’ve found peace—not the kind that comes from knowing why someone wronged me, but the kind that comes from knowing I don’t need to know. I don’t need to carry the weight of unanswered questions, of trying to make sense of things that never made sense to begin with. Letting go of the need for closure was one of the most freeing decisions I’ve ever made.
Through everything I’ve faced—broken relationships, strained family dynamics, and professional setbacks—I’ve come to believe that growth isn’t about gloating or proving anything to anyone. Growth isn’t a trend or something you post about for likes. It’s deeply personal. It’s about looking within yourself, being honest about your flaws, and finding the courage to change.
Growth is understanding that people, situations, and experiences come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. And sometimes, we must accept that a season has ended, even if we didn’t want it to. I’ve learned that some people are only meant to be in our lives temporarily. Their role was to teach us something or show us a part of ourselves we needed to confront. Once their purpose is fulfilled, their departure isn’t a loss—it’s a blessing, even if it doesn’t feel like it at the time.
I used to worry about how I would handle seeing the people who wronged me again. Would I crumble? Would I lash out? Would I feel small? But now, I’m convinced I won’t see them again—not because of bitterness or avoidance, but because their part in my story is over. And I’ve made peace with that. The truth is, we were only meant to cross paths for a season, to teach each other lessons, to understand the right and wrong ways to treat people. And now, we’ve moved on. I wish them well. I truly do. I pray they find peace, love, and joy. But I also know that my peace, love, and joy are no longer tied to them. And that is a powerful realization.
Finding peace is about having faith in the process. It’s about trusting that every step, every detour, every heartbreak is leading you to where you’re meant to be. It’s about letting go of what was never yours to begin with—relationships, expectations, grudges—and making room for what’s truly meant for you. Faith isn’t just about believing in what’s ahead; it’s about believing in the lessons from your past, too.
Growth looks different for everyone. For some, it’s a complete 180—leaving behind everything they once knew to rebuild a life they love. For others, it’s a small shift—a realization that one part of their life needs changing and taking the steps to make it better. And for some, it’s about stepping back and understanding that something isn’t right, then embarking on the journey to figure out what, how, and when of it all. No matter where you are on your journey, know that your growth is valid, your struggles are shaping you, and your progress—no matter how small—is worth celebrating.
For me, growth has been about learning to let go of control. It’s about accepting that I can’t make people see my worth or treat me how I deserve. I can’t change the past or force closure. What I can do is focus on myself—on my healing, my happiness, and my peace. I can celebrate the person I’m becoming, even if others don’t see it. I can be proud of the life I’m building, even if it doesn’t align with someone else’s expectations.
As we head into the holiday season and the final stretch of the year, I encourage you to take a moment to reflect. Ask yourself: Am I the same person I was in January? How far have I come? What has changed? Give yourself credit for your growth, even if it’s not where you thought you’d be. Growth isn’t about perfection; it’s about progress. It’s about understanding your path, knowing why you’ve chosen not to look back, and finding the courage to keep moving forward.
Remember to give yourself some time to recharge and do the things that bring you peace—whether it’s baking, reading, traveling, or simply sitting in silence. Celebrate your wins, no matter how small. Take pride in the lessons you’ve learned and the person you’re becoming. And above all, don’t be afraid to share your journey with others. While our paths may be different, our stories can inspire, uplift, and connect us in ways we never imagined.
To everyone reading this, I’m so thankful to share this space with you. Your growth matters, your journey matters, and you are enough. Keep moving forward. The best is yet to come.
See you on the next post!
With Love & Gratitude,
Serina
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